Because a friend said something hurtful and you took it personally


    Because a random stranger was rude and disrespectful to you and you lost control


    Because you are constantly apologizing for things you said or did


    Because you can’t control your emotions

The Problem Is That Those Emotions Accumulate and End Up Exploding In Ways That Hurt Relationships And Make You Feel Out Of Control


    Blaming, complaining, crying uncontrollably, making quick comebacks, and getting defensive


    Numbing your emotions (with food, alcohol, cigarettes, social media or work) so you don't have to feel anything uncomfortable


    Avoiding difficult people and uncomfortable conversations, procrastinating and self-sabotaging

I'm Shira Gura. I teach women, like you, how to gain control over their emotional reactions so they don't self-sabotage themselves or their relationships. 

But it wasn’t always that way. 

Growing up, I was always called “sensitive.” The smallest things would trigger me and set me off. But I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions of feeling hurt, annoyed, or frustrated in the heat of the moment. 

And so instead of handling situations well, I took things personally, blamed others for how I felt, and played the victim.

And then I’d beat myself up for how I acted.


Over time, I began to see the effects of what was happening… my inability to control my emotions was negatively impacting my life and my relationships. 

One day, I realized that if I really wanted to feel in control, I needed a practical strategy that I could rely on no matter WHAT the situation.

I set out on a mission to find a solution that would help me stop letting my emotions hijack my life. 

Once I learned the science and psychology behind my emotional reactions, everything started to change. I learned how to manage my emotions, instead of allowing my emotions to manage me.

As the author of the international award-winning books, Getting unSTUCK: Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being and The CLEAR Way: Five Simple Steps to be Mentally Prepared for Anything and the host of the weekly podcast, You Can Handle Anything, I invite you to join me on this life-changing journey!


"Learning How to Control My Emotional Reactions Has Literally Changed My Life!"

Nancy Lubars

"Learning how to control my emotional reactions has changed my relationship with my daughter. A year ago my daughter didn't want to speak to me or see me. In fact, she canceled dinner for my birthday. This year she asked if she could come and spend the weekend celebrating my birthday with me! I take full credit for this change because of my ability to control my emotional reactions in the moment. And this is just the start!"

Your brain is wired for speed to PROTECT you.

In the heat of the moment, everything happens so quickly. You get triggered and then BOOM!, you react automatically and lose control.

And since you weren't taught HOW to deal with everyday emotional situations IN THE MOMENT, you end up blaming others, complaining, or losing control because your mind wants to hold onto being RIGHT, no matter the cost.

Typical self-help programs can cost thousands of dollars, can take months to complete, and don't necessarily give you REAL-TIME results.

My 3-Step Approach focuses on the HOW and the NOW and offers you a PRACTICAL way to control your emotions IN THE MOMENT instead of self-sabotaging.

So the next time your spouse triggers you, or your kids push your buttons, or a neighbor gets under your skin, you'll literally be able to use this approach to stop yourself instead of ruining a moment. And over time, you'll heal the relationships that you've been slowly sabotaging because of your reactions.

This is The Only Program for Sensitive Women That Teaches You How to Manage Your Emotional Reactions So You Can Stop Being Hijacked By Them!


    So you can "catch" your emotions before they get the best of you


    So you can stop taking things personally, and getting easily hurt and offended


    So you can stop being affected by other people's words and behavior

  • Spiraling out of control when people trigger you

  • Taking things personally when people push your buttons

  • Letting your emotions run the show

  • STEP #1

    Learn the very FIRST thing you should do the moment you feel triggered

  • STEP #2

    Learn a SIMPLE hack that calms you down even during anxious moments

  • STEP #3

    Learn how to PROTECT yourself from making bad, impulsive decisions


    That teach you lifetime skills, step-by-step, for how to stop letting your emotions hijack your life in any situation, no matter what!


    That customizes this approach to your life so you can better understand your patterns when it comes to your emotional reactions.

A Training on How to Strengthen Your "Moment Muscle"

Because It's All About The Moment

Learning WHAT to do in the midst of an emotional moment is one thing, but having an opportunity to put that learning into PRACTICE is something else entirely. When you enroll, I offer you a bonus training that offers you an opportunity to practice "catching" your emotional reactions in the moment so you can be mentally prepared the next time you get emotionally triggered.

If You've Been Feeling...

  • Reactive When It Comes to Your Emotions

  • Embarrassed By Your Impulsive Reactions

  • Confused With Not Knowing Where to Start

  • Is this program for me?

    If your spouse triggers you, if your children push your buttons, if random people get under your skin, this program will provide you the structure and guidance to teach you, step-by-step, how to control your emotions IN THE MOMENT.

  • How is this program delivered?

    This program is delivered via videos and audios. You can access the course from your computer, tablet or smartphone.

  • How long does it take to go through this course?

    If you go through the course in one sitting, it will take you about an hour to complete. That being said, it's important to keep in mind that this is a life-time practice which is why I offer you lifetime access to this training. Even after you go through the training once, I highly recommend you go through the training again and again until you truly establish this approach as a part of your life.

  • When can I start to expect to see results?

    The very next time you get triggered and you apply what you learn to that situation, you can expect to see results! Practice makes possible!

  • What happens if I get "stuck" along the way?

    There is nothing more that I want than to support you on this journey. If you would like additional support, you can contact me to set up a 1:1 coaching session.

  • Is this program for me if I've never done any kind of work like this before?

    Yes! This program is for any woman who wants to learn how to be more in control of her emotions so she can build, repair, and grow her relationships. All you need is an open mind, a desire to learn, and a readiness to practice. The training is broken down into bite-size pieces so I make it easy for you to consume, especially if this is the first time you are dipping your toes into this kind of work.

  • Do you offer a refund?

    No. I do not offer a refund for this program. I am confident in the research-based methods you will learn and in the results you will see once you start to apply them to your life. Once you enroll, you have lifetime access to this training.

"I Am Getting to A Better Place and My Loved Ones Are Seeing It, Too!"

Sarah Traubman

"Learning how to control my emotional reactions was simpler than I thought. I now know how to keep the power back in my court when dealing with everyday family and work situations. I feel confident, empowered, and resilient. I am getting to a better place, and my loved ones are seeing it too."